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A victory in the battle against fear

Today, I’m happy to feature a guest post from Kelly Balarie for her new book, Fear Fighting. I got the privilege of reading this early and endorsing it. This is the really short summary of what I had to say:

In spite of everything—our failures, our fears, our worries, our attempted control of our own lives—God loves us. He adores us. And if you don’t believe me, read Kelly Balarie’s Fear Fighting. You’ll walk away believing that God is on your side. That you’re not in the battle alone. Kelly is known as a “cheerleader of faith,” but she isn’t just standing there shouting “Yea, God!” This is a woman whose stories are exuberant and passionate and hopeful—because she knows what she’s talking about. She has lived with fear, faced countless challenges, and learned that God is the answer to it all. I think every single one of us can benefit from her encouraging insights and practical tips. In fact, as I was reading, I kept jotting down the names of people who should read this. And you might as well add your own name to the list, because there’s something in here for you. I’m sure of it!

And now, here’s a post from Kelly (because ya gotta love another Kelly, right?). The book releases today and I hope you will hop on over to Amazon or Barnes & Noble or your favorite bookseller and buy it right now. This is going to make such a difference to so many people. It was even featured on the Today Show recently as one of their favorite things! But even if you don’t pick up the book today, please pray for it to end up in the hands of the right people, for people to face down the fears that are holding them back.

Also, before you go, please leave a comment below to enter a drawing for one a copy of this book. Just give a shout-out to one person you know who is brave, who faces their fear in any large or small way and inspires you or other people. If you want to share basic details about a fear you’re facing, that works too, and know that I will pray for each one of you who leaves a comment below. I’ll do the drawing one week from today. Thanks. Enjoy!

I was SO angry at myself. Again, I was not trusting God. While I had prayed and prayed, I just couldn’t believe He’d help me move this massive barrier out of the way. I couldn’t imagine how He’d do the impossible – for me. Sure, I wanted to believe that things could change – and I knew I should believe – but, when I saw the reality of everything around me – I couldn’t. I just kept doubting things would end okay.

And, then began what I like to call the Fear Cycle. It goes like this, in a mind: I’m doubting -> I’m not faithful -> Now God will leave me -> I won’t do well if he leaves -> I will certainly fail -> Now I am even more doubting -> Now I am even more not faithful -> And now, even more he will leave me…. (you all get the picture). It keeps circling until you find yourself in the barren dry tundra of Alaska, cold and without any comfort. Alone, and ready to die. Afraid, and feeling anything like a Christ follower.

This is where I found myself one evening. I sat at the dinner table hunched and chomping on a salad, one I was certain was missing something from it – maybe fried onions??? Either way, everything looked bleak. Still, trying to be a good mother, despite feeling like a bad Christian, I whipped out my tried-and-true nightly question. It’s my way of getting my family to talk about their day, so I have some iota of what is going on.

“Tell me the best part of your day and the worst part of your day?”

My husband went first. “The best part was…and the worst part was when I used an overly ‘stern voice’ with you, son.”

Thank goodness, I came up with the idea to ask this question, because no longer than a split-second after my husband’s response, breakthrough arrived. It sounded like a 5-year olds’ voice. He said, “Daddy, that should actually be the best part of your day. Because it’s a big celebration that Jesus forgives you.”

And, Boom! It hit me.

What is the deep fear that I am a horrible mom, Christian, woman, writer, sister, daughter or (fill in the blank), is instantly healed by the letters – G.R.A.C.E.

My sons’s words remind me – every time I am at my worst I can celebrate Jesus is always at his – B.E.S.T.

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 2 Cor. 12:9

I love this! If we fall into his best gift, His forgiveness, He resurrects our mindsets again in our true identity – Him.

Where do you need celebrate that Christ is always at his best, even when you are at your worst?

We don’t have to go alone, wandering to some far off tundra where we sit in our anxiety and worry, but we can choose to receive God’s best and move to a place of new found freedom. We can go to the place where faith begins to return.


About the book, Fear Fighting, Awakening the Courage to Overcome Your Fears: Author and speaker Kelly Balarie didn’t always fight fear – for a large part of her life, she was controlled by it. Yet, in her book, Fear Fighting: Awakening Courage to Overcome Your Fears, with God, Kelly charts a new course. Join Kelly on the journey to go and grow with Christ’s bravery, the Spirit’s counsel and God’s unending love that squelches fear. This book reads like a love letter from God, while offering practical heart-calming prayers, anxiety-reducing tips, and courage-building decrees that will transform your day.


About Kelly Balarie: Kelly is both a Cheerleader of Faith and a Fighter of Fear. She leans on the power of God, rests on the shoulder of Christ, and discovers how to glow in the dark places of life. Get all Kelly’s blog posts by email or visit her on her blog, Purposeful Faith. You can also find a variety of resources for your fight against fear here.


11 Responses to “A victory in the battle against fear”

  1. I praise God that I do not have a spirit of fear, but I know some women who are living crippled by fears. I would like to share the book and some of the resources with them.

  2. Suzanne says:

    I’m slowly learning to overcome the fear of not being enough, not being good enough…
    Thank you for sharing the song “No longer slaves” last year Kelly in one of your posts. Has been a great comfort at times.

  3. susan says:

    I struggle against fear of every kind; that I’m obsolete, that I’ll always be alone (my husband got convicted of a crime he did not commit because of lies and assumptions and the failure of a broken system – we’re getting to the age where I’m afraid we won’t live through it and he will never come home, or I won’t live to see it), afraid my loved ones won’t accept the gift of Jesus and there is nothing I can do to help them do that, and other lesser worries. My dream for this year and all the future I have? To have an automatic response of gratitude to whatever comes, to snuggle into the love of God, to notice wonders and make beauty every day – these are the things that lift me out of fear.

  4. Ruth O says:

    I want to give a shout out to my health coach Emmie who shares her story and fights through her fears.
    I fear failure. My little 6 yr old girl feels sick a lot and had what seemed like a panic attack. She feels like she’s going to die.
    Knowing Jesus is my rescue line. He’s my anchor and my strong tower. Like I tell her, He’s not given us a spirit of fear, so if I’m feeling fear, I know that feeling is not coming from Jesus. (unless of course, it’s a message of warning to flee danger or something like that!)

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  6. Nnadi vivian says:

    Am in will I get the book.thanks

  7. Debbie says:

    Beautiful reminder Kelly! The enemy tries to afflict me with fear of incapabilities and fear of relinquishing control to Abba over every area of my life but I’m grateful for truth and How Jesus has been healing me from these!

  8. danielle says:

    I have battled fear for so much of my life. I had fear of people knowing who I “really” was until God helped me find security in him. I had a great fear of death until God walked me through the death of my child. I had great fear of my relationship failing but God is currently walking me through divorce. I have had to face many fears head-on and only by his grace have I continued to be able to stand upright. I am looking forward to reading your book!

  9. Tam says:

    All I can say right now is thank you.

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